business and pleasure don’t mix

When Loma’s husband, Frank, accepted a dinner invitation from a legal couple, John and Dimi – who had set up business in the office next to his dental surgery and sucked him into ditching his old legal advisers in favor of their services – Loma was forced into socializing with people she instinctively felt very uncomfortable around, and later events proved her right.

“If he had kept his dealings with J & D on a strictly business level our marriage would still be perfect,” sighs Loma, “but unfortunately he accepted a dinner invitation from this couple, and I was forced into socializing with people I instinctively felt very uncomfortable with.”

“J & D were extremely pushy, loud and ostentatious and all they talked about was money,” sighs Loma. “Frank seemed to think they were fabulous and was having a great time at their place, and for his sake I tried to be pleasant to them – even to the point of reciprocating the dinner invitation.”

“At dinner at our place, John made a pass at me when I was in the kitchen,” says Loma, “and that was the end of things as far as I was concerned, although I never spoilt Frank’s friendship with him by saying anything about it. I just told him that I felt uncomfortable with J & D and he understood.”
“From then on, Frank just had lunch with them and kept me out of the loop,” says Loma, “and that worked out well because I was pregnant and everyone assumed I wasn’t interested in socializing.”

“A year later John gained revenge on me for rebuffing his advances by driving a terrible wedge between Frank and I over an inheritance trust I wanted set up for our son,” says Loma. “He intended to split us up and gain more legal business for himself and his awful wife.”

“I was very tempted to tell Frank that John was a louse and had made a pass at me that first, and last time, he had been invited to our home for dinner, and that’s why I refused to socialize with them again, but I kept quiet,” says Loma. “Somehow, I think telling Frank this information now would make me look like a liar.”

“In a ‘my-word-against-his’ scenario,” explains Loma, “I think John has now gained so much of Frank’s confidence that he would have won out over me.”

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Loma’s marriage was perfect until her husband, Frank, struck up a business friendship with a legal couple, John and Dimi, who set up business in the office next to his dental surgery.

“Frank is a lovely man, very caring and compassionate but his one fault is that he has always been a soft touch – never bothering to harass patients for payment,” explains Loma, “and that’s why, I think, he got sucked into ditching his old legal advisers for the services of J & D – a couple I instinctively disliked.”

“A year after our son Davy was born I mentioned to Frank that it would be nice if we could set up a special inheritance for him – particularly an investment property I had been looking at, and he thought it was a good idea, too.”

“I agreed with Frank that he should sound out J & D on how we should go about setting up a special inheritance investment property for Davy, and I was surprised when he came home and said that John had advised him that any investment property should be bought by Frank’s dental business, not privately, because of financial lurks and stuff like that.”

“I told Frank that I didn’t like this idea at all and that if a child cannot hold property in his or her own right, under some trust, then it would be better to put the property in my name and that would give me some income and something to do until Davy is old enough to own the property in his own right.”

“Frank agreed that getting his dental business involved in private property purchases was probably not a better idea than mine,” says Loma, “but apparently when he mentioned my idea to John he was cautioned about putting property in my name.”

“Had Frank just left it at that, I would have been none the wiser,” sighs Loma, “but unfortunately he blurted out that John had sat him down and given him some very somber advice about wives who wangle their husbands into putting property in their names and then suing for divorce and ruining their husbands financially.”

“This wounded me so badly that I fear our marriage is doomed.”

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