Marital Matters

Personal stories about marital matters and separation issues.

May 15, 2008

Sex Addicted Husbands

Patrice believes that the basis of the Fritzl horror in Amstetten, Austria, was Josef Fritzl’s insatiable sex addiction, and by ignoring this disease – which is what it is – society allowed him to rape, commit incest and engage in sex tourism and kinky parties without censure until the atrocious ramifications of his disease woke everyone up.

"I was a virgin when I married -- it was expected back in those days -- and I had no idea that my husband was a sex-addict because I had nobody to compare him with," sighs Patrice. “I discovered later on that men who prize virginity do so for this very reason, fear of comparison.”

"He demanded sex first thing in the morning, when he came home from work and last thing at night -- and sometimes he would also come home during the day to relieve his sexual urges with me."

"He had no natural reluctance to force himself on me when I was menstruating, straight home from hospital after giving birth or when I was ill," says Patrice. "His sexual needs were paramount and whatever state I was in was immaterial."

"I had no reason whatsoever to think that my husband would be capable of incest or rape, but as I came to learn that his sexual appetite was abnormal -- in that most other women I spoke to or read about were subjected to sex once a week, if that -- I was particularly protective of my daughters, just in case, and I never denied him his sexual outlet with me while they lived at home."

“Sex addiction is a disease,” says Patrice, “and if your husband is that way inclined then you should make him seek help before he does something unforgivable or criminal.”

Read more by Patrice on this issue:


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  • hunks, trunks and living dolls


  • the bearded man in the sky


  • empty nest divorce time


  • Rosemarie Fritzl a Protective Crab?


  • what’s civilized about western men?


  • fritzl wives


  • rosemarie fritzl's bad decision


  • Was Rosemarie Fritzl Blameless?


  • the cliff richard generation


  • dependence enables evil


  • are sex addicts evolutionary dinosaurs?


  • incest horror



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    May 04, 2008

    fritzl wives

    Before feminism in the 1960s it was pretty well accepted that men ruled the roost and when Patrice heard about the horrific Josef Fritzl story she immediately understood the type of man he was -- she was once married to one. Like the Stepford Wives, is there something about the Fritzl Wives?

    “What I don't understand was why Rosemarie remained his wife after 1967 when he was imprisoned for rape, and after 1984 when her children had grown up,” says Patrice. “And I don’t understand, either, why poor Elisabeth, the daughter, did not tell anyone her father was raping her from the age of 11.”

    “He was the perpetrator, but Rosemarie the wife was the enabler,” adds Patrice. “Without her enablement, he would be just a pathetic little man with unfulfilled fantasies and deep down in her psyche she knows this to be true.”

    “Marriage gave Rosemarie the social status and comfortable life she prized and as long as he left her alone, got his rocks off somewhere else and kept the money flowing she was apparently willing to ignore the many glaring inconsistencies that his double life necessitated.”

    "Rosemarie's presence in the house gave him a cover of respectability as well as freedom from chores, totally enabling him to act out his fantasies," explains Patrice. "By deciding to stay with him when she was 100% free to leave in 1984, and by acting as a surrogate mother for three of the cellar children -- the first brought up in 1992, eight years later -- she actually provided all of the means necessary for him to get away with his terrible crime."

    “She was using him as much as he was using her -- it was a marriage of mutual convenience,” says Patrice. “My marriage was ‘convenient’, too, but I took the first opportunity I could, in 1984, to break free from the Stepford wife existence.”

    Read more by Patrice on this issue:


  • locked up living fritzl dolls


  • hunks, trunks and living dolls


  • Josef Fritzl and Sex Addiction


  • the bearded man in the sky


  • empty nest divorce time


  • Rosemarie Fritzl a Protective Crab?


  • what’s civilized about western men?


  • rosemarie fritzl's bad decision


  • Was Rosemarie Fritzl Blameless?


  • the cliff richard generation


  • dependence enables evil


  • are sex addicts evolutionary dinosaurs?


  • incest horror



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